How to BOSS Social Interaction with Confidence [VIDEO]
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People, eh?
They can be hard work. (I see you nodding).
But what if the problem isn't them per se, but their role….
DB’s Coaching, Counselling & Cognitive Hypnotherapy Blog for Leighton Buzzard & Milton Keynes
Here's where I post what I write. Some may be useful. Some even entertaining. And if we're lucky, it's both.
Perfectionism: How Fear of Looking Stupid Will Hold You Back [VIDEO]
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Perfectionism.
Ye Olde Creator-and-Preventer of Flops and Failures…
Why Your New Years' Resolutions Fail Miserably (And 4 Steps To Achieve Them)
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Hate New Years' Resolutions?
Me too. It's not that I hate them, per se. But I never really saw the point.
"I'm FINALLY going to start doing that thing I've been putting off for years!" No. No, you're probably not.
So why do we keep doing it to ourselves then…?
Read MoreOn Being Most EXCELLENTLY Wrong: How Mental Breakdowns Can Work In Your Favour
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A single, year-old photo popped up on my memories recently. It's all smiles and silliness. But from that snapshot, you'd never suspect my mental health and business had both come crashing down over the previous six months.
Read MoreBe More Laurence: Knowing How To Be More Loving, Open, And A Better Person For Everyone
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I found out someone I knew died recently.
I didn't know him well. In fact, we only met once on a four-day retreat. But the effect he had on me was profound…
Read MoreRunning In Circles: Trust Issues? The MOST Important Thing To Know
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Trust issues?
I found a new running route recently.
I took a last-minute detour, thinking "I wonder what's down that way".
Now, that might seem trivial. But it wasn't some years ago…
Read MoreConfidence: Why It Isn't Real (And How You Build Confidence Anyway) [VIDEO]
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"You're very brave"
A client said this to me recently as I recounted the time I jumped out of a plane. And I laughed to myself.
But what's more important is he was wrong. And I say that not to be humble. But because it's fundamentally wrong…
Read MoreWordsmyth: The Hypnotherapy Fallacy (What Doesn't Work And How Change Actually Happens)
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"So where does the hypnotherapy bit come in?"
I'm often asked this question during my first conversation with a client…
Read MoreAddictive Thinking: What Is Addiction? How It's Not The Thing, It's What You Believe [VIDEO]
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What is addiction? And why do some people get addicted, and others don't?
I used to say I had an addictive personality. I could get quite obsessive and was very all-or-nothing. And just as Ms. Mary-J had been something I was all-in on as a teenager, alcohol was no different in my twenties…
Read MoreBouncing Back: 3 Key Traits That Separate Those Who Crumble From Those Who Cope
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Struggling with stress, feeling overwhelmed, or handling uncertainty and change?
The world's a very different place than it was at the beginning of March. And yet the experience for some has been vastly different from that of others. So what makes the difference?
Read MoreCurrent Showdown: The Underlying Cause Of Why You Get Frustrated (And How To Make Things Easier)
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We all have those days. I know I do. But what about when it's every.damn.day?
I often find it comes down to this…
Read MoreCOVID Coping Skills: 4 Tips To Stay Sane During The COVID-19 Coronavirus Lockdown
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"These are unprecedented times".
Something we keep hearing a lot. But with all the uncertainty, let's put our attention on what we can do to keep grounded…
Read MoreLockdown Lash-Out: The Key To Handling Social Distancing Dissenters In The COVID-19 Coronavirus Pandemic (And What Doesn't Work)
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"I don't like this episode of Black Mirror"
One of the best-yet-worst memes I've seen to explain our current situation.
Social Distancing and Self-Isolation are now part of everyday lingo. Uncertainty seems one of the only certainties…
Read MoreDon't Look Into My Eyes: 4 Key Reasons Cognitive Hypnotherapy Isn't What You Think It Is
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I often get asked "how is what you do different to Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) or Counselling?" or more simply:
"So what is it you actually do?"
Read MoreRunaway Goals: The 1 Key Reason We Fail At New Years' Resolutions (And 3 Checks To Make Them Stick)
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It's that time of year again. When we make ourselves promises to change. And then try desperately not to break them. But why is it so hard?
Read MoreRed Or Dead?: The Truth Behind Why A General Election Divided The Nation (And It's Not About Brexit)
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Last Friday in the UK: some woke up rejoicing. Some woke up in horror. Yet, we all experienced the same election result. How can that be?
(It’s not what you think…)
Read MoreFailure To Engage: The Secret To Getting Others To See Right From Wrong
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Do you get sick of people who keep pushing your buttons? Like they just don't respect your boundaries?
I had a coaching conversation recently…
Read MoreIdentity Theft: How Who You Are Can Keep You Procrastinating What You Really Want To Do
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At times we all put off things we dislike. Chores. Housework. Paying bills. But why procrastinate things we actually want to do?
Sometimes it's about identity theft…
Read MoreNailed It: The Hidden Truth Behind The Pain That Prevents Change (And What To Do About It)
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Why do we struggle to make the changes we know we need to?
I stayed in a lacklustre job for a number of years. Despite my lack of interest in the role. Despite mounting tension with my boss. I wasn't happy. I knew that. But I didn't leave.
And why?
Read MoreMoon Mis-Landing: How Perfect Planning Can Destroy Chances Of Delivering On Our Promises
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I had some time off recently. Which was great. But as we know, going away means coming back. And coming back means catching up. Easy enough though. Because I'd already planned how I'd get back on track. Simples.
And then life happened…
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